What's happening around me?

What is happening around you or to you can have a huge impact on your well-being. Despite this, it can often be hard to stop and consider how it might be affecting your mental health.

Family Problems
Trauma and Loss

What's happening around you can affect how you're feeling and thinking.

See 'The way I'm thinking and feeling'

Family Problems

All families will experience problems at some point, some large and some small. How these are dealt with can affect how you feel:

  • Parents/carers splitting up can be a difficult time for everyone. You may feel there are lots of things you don't understand and questions you want to ask. You may feel lots of different emotions such as fear, confusion, sadness or anger.
  • Getting used to a step-family, when your parent lives with a new partner or remarries, can be a difficult. You may feel lots of different emotions such as fear, sadness, anger or loneliness.
  • It can be difficult if your parent/s find it hard to care for you, or if you need to care for them. There are lots of reasons why this can happen, it might be that they have mental health difficulties, a physical disability or difficulties with drugs or alcohol. But having extra jobs to do at home might make it hard for you to find time to see your friends, or even go to school. There is help available for young people in this situation; and it's important to remember that asking for help won't mean that you're letting your family down; in fact you having a better balance in your life will bring benefits to both you and your family.

If you are experiencing any of these issues, it is important to tell someone how you feel.

Trauma & Loss

By trauma we mean experiencing or witnessing something that is extremely stressful or frightening. It might be an accident, an attack or a disaster of some sort.

By loss we mean losing someone or something close to you. It might be a relative or a close friend; it could be that they've died, moved away, gone to prison, or there may be some other reason why you're not able to see them.

Trauma and loss can affect different people in different ways, but they can both be very distressing and cause feelings such as sadness, helplessness, confusion, anxiety, anger and frustration. To help you get through this difficult time, talking to someone you trust about how you are feeling can be really helpful.

Hopefully, with time, you'll start to notice an improvement in how you're feeling; but if instead your feelings become more difficult and they're affecting your daily life then it is important that you ask for help.


Bullying can happen to anyone at any age, time or place. It can include:

  • Being physically hurt in any way
  • Being threatened and made to feel scared
  • Being teased or called insulting names
  • Having hurtful rumours spread about you or being ignored
  • Receiving offensive text, emails and messages sent online

Bullying is an important concern; the way it makes you feel can affect other areas of your life. Nobody has the right to bully you, if you feel this is happening it's important that you tell someone you trust.


Abuse can be many things:

  • Being hit, or kicked
  • Not being properly looked after or fed
  • Being criticised, ignored or humiliated
  • Being asked to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable
  • Being sexually abused (this can include being forced to have sex or made to do anything sexual that you feel uncomfortable with)
  • Witnessing violence in the home

This can be by anyone, whether a member of your family, family friend or just someone you have come into contact with. Nobody has the right to harm you. If you feel you are being abused, you should talk to an adult that you feel you can trust.